With everything going on in the world right now, it feels more important than ever to be kind to one another. Many people are struggling, each in their own ways, with a variety of things, such as financial concerns, mental illness, loneliness, job loss and much more.
Unfortunately, I have been observing and feeling more judgment and criticism than ever before. I have even caught myself being more negative and judgmental then I should be. Especially in the world of social media, it seems like people have the confidence to say hurtful and awful things to others as they hide behind their screens.
This post is about standing up and saying that this is not okay. We can be so quick to judge others especially when we are feeling down on ourselves. It’s important to understand that criticizing others makes us feel good because it causes a release of stress and anxious emotions. However, we must be aware that we are feeling this way and find healthier ways to release these emotions.
With all of this on my heart, I thought I could speak to some of the ways I am trying to ground myself in being a good person as this pandemic rages on.
Let go of anger
In order to be kinder to those around us, we have to first let go of the anger that we have. It could be things like anger about what is going on in the world or anger from someone hurting you in the past. You have to let that sh** go. I really like this article about 19 Strategies on How to Let Go of Anger and Resentment.
Check in with the ones you love
When you think of someone and wonder how they are doing actually reach out to them and check in. This small step could make a huge difference in someone’s day. You might even be the only person that they talk to that day.
Give a deserving and genuine compliment
Before you judge or criticize someone find one thing that you like about them. Take it one step further and compliment them on that thing, but make sure it is genuine. A single compliment can make a person’s entire day. I don’t know about you, but I would rather make a person’s day with a compliment rather than tear them down with judgement or criticism.
Don’t argue with other people’s opinions
With everything going on in our world (quick reminder – NOBODY HAS EVER EXPERIENCED THIS BEFORE), there are SO MANY differing opinions. Everyone is allowed to have their own opinion and just because someone has a different opinion from you doesn’t make them wrong. Arguing with people on the Internet will only cause more negativity and stress.
Focus on what you can control
One of the most important things you can do during a time that you feel like you have lost all control is to focus on the things you can control. Practicing good hygiene, keeping your home organized, finding moments of joy and loving the ones who mean the most to you.
There is significant research that being kind is linked to a wealth of physical and emotional benefits. Studies have shown that when people are kind, they have lower levels of stress hormones and their fight-or-flight response calms down. Consider your choices to be a better person are for your own health.
**It is important to note that not all judgement is bad, it’s actually a completely normal thing that has been taught to us since the beginning of civilization. This article is incredibly insightful about The Psychology Behind Judgmental Behaviour.
I would love to hear your ideas about how we can be better people and I hope that you found something useful in this post.
Song of the Week: Lonely Bones – The Honest Heart Collective
Quote of the Week: “Never regret being a good person, to the wrong people. Your behavior says everything about you, and their behavior says enough about them.”
Netflix Show/Movie of the Week: The Home Edit