Getting comfortable with being alone

Getting comfortable with being alone

With our seasons slowly shifting from fall to winter I have been finding myself overwhelmed with feelings of loneliness and boredom. For those of you who know me know that I used to run at top speed the majority of the time. My life went from planning and attending events, competing in sports, volunteering, many social gatherings and trips, to spending a lot of time at home…alone. COVID has been hard for many reasons, but this has been one of the biggest challenges for me.

My job at Wilfrid Laurier University is completely virtual for the foreseeable future and my husband is currently in the middle of busy season. Corn harvest means that he works from early morning until late at night on the days that it doesn’t rain. It’s a bit different out in the country; you don’t have the same experience as going for walks and passing by strangers, it’s dead silent (except for when the Amazon guy shows up with packages and Bailey loses her mind), and it’s not as simple as you think to drive to town for some human interaction.

I am currently spending about 10-15 hours a day alone and I can tell it is starting to take a toll on my wellbeing. As we approach winter, I feel my anxiety creeping in even harder since I will have even less opportunities to leave the house. So I reached out for ideas on my Instagram account to see how others cope during these times and the response was overwhelming. I thought it might be helpful to share all of the ideas in a blog post for anyone else who might be experiencing these feelings.

I also found this fascinating article about bettering the skill set of solitude. If this is something you are going through right now, you may find this helpful or you can tuck it away in your toolkit for down the road.

  • Create a schedule for your day with multiple breaks
  • Spa night – face mask, bubble bath or long shower
  • Save your favourite TV show for these challenging moments
  • Read a book
  • Write in a journal
  • Listen to a podcast
  • Do something for others – Random Act of Kindness or Volunteer
  • Practice mindfulness
  • Play upbeat music
  • Sing and dance to your favourite song
  • Try a new recipe
  • FaceTime friends or family
  • Turn on a Friends episode to play in the background
  • Puppy or baby cuddles
  • Christmas lights
  • Say things out loud; like a conversation with yourself
  • Practice gratitude
  • Go for a walk

For those of you who provided suggestions or messaged me and reached out, thank you. It is great to have so many kind and caring individuals in my life and you all made my day a little bit brighter. I am starting some of these ideas today with hanging Christmas lights in my office!!

The other thing I am going to continue to work on is reminding myself that it is okay to have bad days. Embracing and accepting these feelings is one of the most important things you can do for getting better at dealing with them.

Song of the Week: Hypnotize by Flights Over Phoenix   

Quote of the Week: “Those who fly solo have the strongest wings.”

Netflix Show/Movie of the Week: Dream Home Makeover


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