Looking back at my relationship with my mom makes me laugh a little. If you would have told teenage me that she would be my best friend and the biggest inspiration in my life, I would have thought you were crazy. I think a lot of girls can relate to those experiences in their younger years but as you get older, you realize just how incredible your mom is.
My mom is one of the most beautiful people I know! She is so kind, supportive, loving, and the rock of our family. I am so blessed to have such an incredible inspiration in my life and a role model for the kind of mom that I would like to be one day. She has supported me through all of my crazy dreams and visions, although she doesn’t love when I make her workout with me.
My mom has taught me a lot of things over the years and I’m sure there will be more to come in the future but here is a list of the top six things I have learned from her in the past 27 years.
Don’t take anyone or anything for granted – when my mom was 40 and I was 12, she had a stroke. It was a really scary time for our family and there was a lot of uncertainty for many years. My youngest brother Dean was actually the one that saved her life (it is one of those angels looking down on you moments). Someone happened to have called the house that day and five-year-old Dean was able to communicate that something was wrong. She was in and out of the hospital for years and as kids it was really hard to understand what was going on.
Looking back on this experience as an adult, I see my mom as a superhero; enduring something so difficult and coming out the other side stronger than ever before. They were eventually able to find a solution to the problem that caused the stroke and she had no long-lasting health effects from this disease. Although it seems like a blip in time, this event had such a profound effect on everyone in our family.
Show up as your best self every single day – this is one of my favourite things that I learned from my mom and most likely why I hold myself to the highest standards. I don’t think I can ever remember a time that I saw my mom leave the house looking like a slob. She is always put together and puts her best face forward every single day. I am so glad that I now carry the same mindset no matter how many people tell me I dress too fancy or that I don’t need to wear makeup every day. It’s a ‘look how you want to feel’ attitude and I love it.
Never stop being you – no matter how many times I came home crying about the mean kids or how many times I told my mom I wanted to change something about myself, she always reminded me how incredibly perfect I was just the way I am. She empowered me to own every single part of myself, including the parts that some people don’t like. She saw me for me before I was ever able to and for that, I am forever grateful.
My mom never changed her behaviours or shifted her opinions based on what other people said about her, she was unapologetically herself each day. I continue to struggle with letting other people’s opinions affect me and will continue to strive for this same attitude.
By fostering wellness, you can build up your resilience – my mom was thrown a lot of curve balls in life and each time she would stand back up stronger and fight again. Her willpower is uncanny, and that part of her genetics was definitely not passed down to me. I will sit there and eat the whole bag of chips without even really realizing it until it’s gone, while she would fill up her small bowl and never go back for more.
Although we don’t share the same willpower, I do believe that her ability to focus on her wellness has built up her resilience to the adversity she has faced. Even when things would get hard, she focussed on taking care of her body, avoiding negative outlets and prioritized her relationships with others. I truly believe that this is what allowed her to tackle the challenges that she was faced with.
An organized home is the key to an organized mind – anyone who ever walked in our home when we were growing up would first comment on how clean it was. Surprisingly we never had a house cleaner, but my mom would prioritize having a clean and organized home. Now that I have my own home, I realize how much it relieves stress and anxious thoughts by living in an organized space.
She also prioritized routine in our house, and I believe that set us up for success early on in life. You wake up, you make your bed; you shower, you put on lotion. There are so many health benefits to an organized home and a routine that I never realized until my adult years what an incredible life lesson it is.
Work hard but also take time to play harder – my mom really believes in working hard but also stepping away from work to truly enjoy the fruits of your labour. We spent our entire childhood going camping and boating and not once did I find my parents ‘working’ while doing these activities. They would truly step away from work to enjoy all of their hard work and spend time as a family.
My mom has never been on social media and has never sat staring at her phone during family time. There is SO MUCH to learn from this, I feel like I can’t even unpack it all in one blog post. However, the moral of this life lesson is that working hard is important but so is celebrating the success of that work by being present in moments of play.
There is nothing better than seeing your mom’s excitement for your future and my mom has been my number one cheerleader since day one. I don’t think I could ever repay her for the things she has done for me, but I still promise to wipe her butt someday in the old folk’s home. All joking aside, I hope to teach my children some of these same lessons one day and to be a strong role model for their futures.
Thanks for reading! I would love to hear what kinds of things have you learned from your mom?
Song of the Week: Hard Days by Brantley Gilbert
Quote of the Week: “Mama there’s no way you’ll ever lose me and giving me away is not goodbye. As you watch me walk down to my future, I hope tears of joy are in your eyes.” – Carrie Underwood
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